Valentine’s Day is one of those days where you are either happy to get to share with the one you love or miserable because you can’t. This is one of those times of the year where so many people mess up the relationships they will have in the future. Valentine’s Day, although just a holiday, inspires very strong feelings in people — they get very worked up, stressed out, and plain old sad. They look around at other people who are in relationships and are getting flowers and candy and all sorts of things with resentment. They try to do “anti-Valentine-y” things. It’s all about, “screw love” or “real love doesn’t exist” or “I hate Valentine’s Day” or “I never have a Valentine”. All these thoughts, feelings, and actions are doing so much more damage than people realize!
I have always stressed the point of be careful what you think about because you just might get it and keep getting it! Looking at other people who are in relationships and enjoying themselves while feeling resentment towards them or looking down on them, coming up with some excuse to justify why they are happy on Valentine’s Day and you aren’t. Maybe just simply thinking to yourself, “Oh, look at that stupid couple. They’re so stupid only they could enjoy each other and this stupid day.” Or something to that effect. Sitting and sulking alone and complaining about how you never have a Valentine or being sad about all the silly reasons you think you don’t have one. Your looks, no matter how beautiful or “un-beautiful” you think you are, will not guarantee whether or not you will or won’t have a Valentine. I’ve seen plenty of beautiful people without Valentine’s and I’ve seen plenty of people who maybe aren’t as easy on the eyes always have Valentine’s. It’s just all about your attitude. If you don’t have a Valentine this year, don’t beat yourself up about it. Invite your single friends over, order a pizza and watch a marathon of Golden Girls. Enjoy the day. Don’t think about yourself as being “unlucky” and “out of love”. Fill yourself up with love, joy, happiness by doing whatever makes you happy and being around the people that make you happiest. You are worthy of whatever it is you want out of life. Do not ever put yourself down or allow yourself to get into the mopey Valentine-less cycle. Snap out of it. Send yourself flowers. Buy yourself candy. Remind yourself that you love you and that the right person will come along to love you, too. The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. So if you like yourself, someone who likes you will come into your life. If you love yourself, someone who loves you will come to love you, too.
Spread some kindness on Valentine’s Day. Give a complement, give a smile. You never know if someone else is feeling the Valentine’s Day blues. Your kindness could make them feel better at least for a moment!
Don’t get caught up in the “Anti-Valentine” thing. It’s the silliest of things! I’m not saying go cuckoo for V-day but just don’t stress about it.
My favorite thing about Valentine’s Day is that this time of the year it’s so easy to find a whole bunch of cute pink things adorned with hearts! There’s always an upside to things!
